While at a wedding a couple months ago, I couldn’t help but think about how all the many guests see the Bride from many different viewpoints. Each guest has a different perspective of the Bride from their own experience with her. For example, grandparents and cousins may see the Bride through their filter of childhood and innocence. Co-workers might only see the Bride through their filter of professionalism and responsibility,…

It reminded me of the episode of Seinfeld where he was dating a woman and feared his two worlds were colliding; that of his independent world where he was in charge and could do whatever he wanted, and that of his relationship world where he had others needs and emotions to consider. “If Relationship George walks through this door, he will kill Independent George! A George, divided against itself, *cannot* stand!” — George Costanza, Seinfeld.

George was so worried that only one of the Georges could come out “victorious”, when in all actuality we all are multi-faceted beings capable of integrating all the parts of us. Where the trouble can happen, in my opinion, is when people expect the person to remain that same person for the whole of their lives. The truth is we all grow and evolve year by year, day by day and even moment by moment. It would be very unfair for Grandma to see the Bride as the immature, rebellious teen-ager instead of the loving, respectful young lady she has become.

So as I pondered the experience of the Bride at her reception, I realized she had a difficult job at best. Say there are 100 guests at her party, and each guest sees her through the many different filters. That is a kaleidoscope of filters to see herself. How is it possible to be that many versions of yourself to all the different people?

I believe we are all going through this life trying to figure out who we truly are deep down inside, at the Soul level. It is not an easy task, for most of us, to remember who we truly are. For some it only takes years, for others it can take a lifetime…or longer! At each stage in our life we move forward having learned a little more about our true self. We don’t ever leave the old part behind, we take her with us! We don’t abandon that childhood innocence, we embrace her and absorb her into our essence!

The beliefs we have about others, and especially the beliefs we have of ourself, should change as we ourselves grow and evolve. It’s a good idea to revisit our beliefs every once in a while to see if we need to make changes in our life. Remember that our beliefs rule all. Whether you believe you can or if you believe you can’t, either way you are right! Change your subconscious beliefs and transform your life! Let the real YOU shine through!